Asha and Asli are two sisters who grew the same home, but life torn them a part where each is currently having a different lifestyle. Asha is married at a young age and gave birth to six kids. She decided to stay home and focus on parenting only while her sister Asli invested herself on education and created a beautiful living style but stayed single. Although both have similar childhood background but the way they viewed life is totally different and inspiring and each of them hold an important role in the community.
Asha is doing great job for her kids, but her socialization is too low and have less ideas and information of the developing world. She is thinking that she may not be a good role model for her kids because of the technological changes happening around while she is raising kids in a modern world. On the other hand, Asli enjoys her life and she is proud of it, but she is thinking of getting married and how she will deal the new life. She never wants to become a stay home mother as well as disconnect her social life with friends and co-workers.
Asha had the cultural beliefs and values of her village that allows teenagers not to go to school if they decided to do so, and she dropped in her middle school. They had a tradition that says “even if a woman graduates a higher education, she will eventually become a mother and stay home” which means a mother must provide full parental care for her kids and care her husband, that is her only duty on earth. These beliefs persuaded Asha to marry. In her first five years she was happy and feeling like she fulfilled the most beautiful life as a woman, while she gave birth five kids with in five years, she was receiving congratulations and thankful statements and a lovely messages from her husband’s family for increasing the family members. At the time she felt superior and the one the only lady in that village. Asha and her family got resettlement in the unites states of America which became her second home. After one year she gave birth her last born and her kids started school, asha and her husband started working. Asha faced so many challenges because she could not help her kids in the school assignments, working hand in hand with the teachers was another problem, understanding the cultural changes and dealing with the new environment became difficult and she lost the emotional strength to manage an organized life, this is when she started regretting why she dropped school. Her kids adapted with lifestyle in America while she is still a traditional model and that created a huge mountain between them. The way they respond with certain situations, how they communicate and behave is becoming misunderstanding role. She reflects her earlier days and sees she is living in a different world, which seems like falling from a big mountain and almost losing her dream.
On the other hand, Asli never interested the family based cultural values and beliefs, she graduated her degree and became a licensed social worker and worked for a while, now she is almost completing her master education. She achieved so many goals and managed her time to reach that level. According to her situated self she is a top-rated worker, she has so many friends to chat, discus and workmates, she is facing too much arguments and emotional appeal from her family who encourages her to marry. Her mother says you are chasing your career too much until you forget to have your own future, the lifespan of a woman is too short now you have only few years left for you to give birth children and if you don’t marry soon you will have a rough life ahead. Asli is thinking of becoming a mother is another duty which she may not handle well, like nurturing children and caring a husband and all other house chaos. She reflects her younghood life and how her mother used to take care of the whole family, she also views the current life where children need enough attention and time from their parents and asks to her self by saying why don’t I marry early by now I would have had teenagers? And she replies to herself “ i built my future and career and I lost nothing but have a well-organized life anyway.
Asha and Asli are struggling on how to get a satisfaction in life, both have the talent to create a beautiful life but, there is also a weakness and strength in both sides of their story. Asha feels she is far behind and it will take time to reach the level she is looking forward to safe her children from the waves of teenage life. While her sister Asli is feeling like starting a new chapter of her life which seems to be frustrating and heavy duty ahead. Both have similar feelings inside but different objectives.
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